Where does workaholism come from and is it worth fighting
And then the question arises: Is the game worth the candle? Is it worth it to deprive yourself of your personal life in pursuit of a ghostly worker success? Let's figure it out.
Why do people stay at work?
An important project that needs to be completed in a strictly scheduled time, an emergency meeting, a critical situation that calls into question the existence of the company ... Surely, each of us had something similar. Me too. Personally, I liked to watch how the team is rallied at this moment, as everyone supports each other, as someone carefully brings a big pizza for everyone. And at the end comes the euphoria: “We did it! We did it! ”
What to do?If such force majeure happens infrequently, it is worth treating them as training the body for the ability to work in a time trouble situation. If at work you constantly find yourself in critical situations, it is worth thinking: do you really work among professionals?
Daily rhythms of a person (according to which we are all "larks", "pigeons" or "owls")
Most offices still work with 8-9 hours. If "larks" and "pigeons" adapt to such a regime is not difficult, then "owls" take a long time to rebuild. And if in the morning you have to solve extremely important things, then even three cups of coffee will not always save. Therefore, many "owls" prefer to stay at work, engaged in intellectual activity in later hours - it is at this time that people with such a daily rhythm develop the right level of stress hormone cortisol.
What to do?Accept yourself and your physiology. For the body does not rebuild. If it is convenient for you to work in the evening, in silence, without the calls of clients and messages in the chats, if the leadership is not against your evening vigils, enjoy the necessary working conditions. And in order not to recycle, discuss the possibility of changing the work schedule or find a remote job.
If you have to constantly stay at work on the initiative of the leadership, you are not to blame. Many superiors become neurotic because of increased responsibility.Constant anxiety, emotional instability interfere with the efficient organization of the working process, and as a result stress arises, which further increases the level of anxiety. As a result, such a manager is rarely satisfied with the result.
Many managers, because of their anxiety, focus on their power and do not particularly listen to the opinions of subordinates (and if they do, then only those who can express their opinions extremely carefully and diplomatically, but more on that later).
The problem is that, closing any decision-making on themselves, such a manager cannot relax at all and gets under constant shelling: he is constantly pulled, called, lines are lined up for him, causing employees to infantilize, forget how to make decisions on their own, crush their ideas and suggestions on the vine.
On the other hand, the artificial creation of stress by a neurotic leader (a lot of senseless fuss), as well as infection by neuroticism at work (“I don’t have time, don’t have time!”, “To bring me a new report in five minutes”, “Come quickly from the hospital and print out a table for me ”) is almost the leading incentive for productive activity.Only efficiency usually does not even smell here, because no one can work under constant stress.
Why does a neurotic leader behave this way? Because he is dissatisfied with the work, and above all his. And he understands that he is doing something wrong. But after all, he cannot open his discontent, and therefore breaks down on others: makes employees constantly work after hours, often not paying for hours, calls them from the hospital, from vacation, scolds that the person who is abroad had a telephone inaccessible. Many examples can be given. In all this, a lot of unconscious aggression, which is cured by psychotherapy.
What to do?An insecure person really needs recognition and that everything that he does is valued by cheers. No, I'm not inviting you to toadies. Try to convey to the manager that the current situation is not normal and therefore the employees do not fully realize their potential, that the team or you could work better under such and such conditions. Important point! You can not submit information from the perspective of "you are a bad leader" and "We are / I feel bad."It is worth expressing your opinion in the key "You could use our knowledge and experience better."
Many employees also develop neurotic behavior. And it appears for the same reasons as the boss. There is an anxious person who cannot solve his personal problems. They put pressure on a person, and he closes off their decision at work. And in the office, such an emotional subject can not work quietly in principle. He has such a physiology. And therefore, even at the most boring work in the office, he will create such dramas and serials from scratch, according to the script of which films can be made. These people, in principle, can not live without stress, and therefore form it artificially. And bathe in it, experiencing a whole range of different emotions.
What to do?If a person stays at work on his own initiative, he does it for something. Namely, it makes some mental profit from it. It is necessary to find this profit and estimate the costs. And to make it easier, I suggest to make a table.
Variants of answers (you may have others, the main thing is to answer yourself honestly):
|Mental profit||What do I get?||What do not I get?||Is the price acceptable?If not, then what to do?|
I do not want to see my wife / husband (stopped loving, offended,
|I develop as a professional, I gain a sense of my own worth||The problem with the spouse is not solved||No! Talk to your spouse|
|At home I do not appreciate||Gaining a sense of self worth||Despite the success at work, I still do not appreciate||No. Learn from the home evaluation criteria, for which they are ready to appreciate?|
|I'm afraid of private life, suspense||Here I am subordinate to the work, everything is known, worked out, laid out on the shelves||Fear of privacy remains||
Yes. While it suits me. Do not rush to personal life
Here is such a personal accounting. And it may well be that for someone the delay at work - this is quite an acceptable price for unresolved problems. And for some, it began to seem high, and I already want to solve my problems directly, not hiding behind eternal employment.
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